Rupture
Repair
Role Play
Have that one family conflict that feels like a stubborn knot in your back? We can probably repair it in one 90-minute session, free of charge,
with one catch*.
The Rupture Repair Role Play is a 90-minute coaching session with you and any members of your family who want to join us, where I guide you through resolving one family conflict by role-playing the situation through both you and your child’s eyes.
This surprisingly transformative process allows us to find creative solutions together in record time.
Often this one session not only repairs the particular rupture a family came in with, but they are able to apply the same formula to future issues and create their own family conflict transformation protocol without any additional help from me.
Occasionally however, we discover that there’s more going on than can be solved in one session—that the issue that seemed like a pesky hornet was actually a hornet’s nest. In which case, you might choose to do some more sessions.
Here are some examples of ruptures families have been able to repair in one session:
- A tween wanted a phone and his parents didn’t think he was ready. He kept bringing it up and they were feeling frustrated because they couldn’t figure out a way forward and he wasn’t letting it go.
In our session together we discovered that all he really needed was to trust that whenever not having a phone had a negative impact on him—for example, when coordinating plans with friends—they could problem-solve together. They agreed that if at some point they couldn’t address the issue to his satisfaction, they would revisit getting him a phone.
- A mom signed her daughter up for math tutoring without asking her, which led the daughter to lock herself in the bathroom and, overwhelmed with frustration, bang on the inside of the door until she almost passed out.
In our session, we explored the mom’s intentions, but also stepped into her daughter’s shoes—realizing she didn’t think she needed a tutor and was angry because she wasn’t consulted about the decision.
The mom realized that she had been fixated on continuing the tutoring because of ungrounded fears of her daughter’s academic failure and also because she’s already shelled out all that money (which she later found out she could get a partial refund for).
With new understanding, the mom approached her daughter, offering her the choice. The daughter, with newfound agency, decided she did want to receive tutoring, but not right after school. She wanted to go after dinner, which gave her more of a break.
- A 6-year-old was shouting every night on her way to the bathroom, and her mom worried that accompanying her might reinforce her anxiety.
In our session, I uncovered that the house was from the 1700s, in the countryside, and her daughter had to navigate two dark, rickety flights of stairs to reach the bathroom. When the mom imagined this from her daughter’s perspective, she realized that going with her wasn’t reinforcing fear but providing comfort and support.
With this new empathy, the mom chose to be her daughter’s companion for these excursions, and the shouting stopped.
- Two siblings, ages 6 and 9, always had a huge fight around tooth-brushing. The younger kid was upset that the older sibling was able to brush their teeth faster.
What we discovered was that the reward for finishing brushing teeth was screen time and the 9-year-old was getting more of it because they had a speed advantage, being the older, faster kid.
Once we realized this was the sticking point, they collaborated to come up with a new morning routine that moved screen time to later in the day, and the younger sibling relaxed.
*It’s Free!
There are two options for doing a rupture repair role play with me: free or paid.
The Free Option:
I offer the Rupture Repair Role Play, free of charge, in exchange for permission to use the audio recording as a teaching tool. Your anonymity is protected because I only record the audio, we only use first names, and even those can be pseudonyms.
These recordings provide an invaluable resource for learning and transformation. I use them in workshops and share them on my YouTube channel, and as paid bonus content, where they become powerful teaching tools.
Hearing people work through challenges in real-time—unraveling knots in their thinking and emotions—is not only transformative for those involved, but also for those listening. When people hear others navigating their struggles and breakthroughs, it shortens their learning curve. It’s a rare opportunity to witness authentic growth, inspiring and relatable for anyone on their own journey.
Here’s an example of an excerpt from a recorded role play I’ve used in a workshop.
The Paid Option:
Rather me not use the audio recording? No problem! Fully anonymous sessions are $150-$250, sliding scale.
What People Are Saying
Jessica Bradshaw
“My relationship with my daughter was forever changed by the work we did. My daughter trusts me now and we seldom have conflicts anymore. Our relationship is now really open and great. ”
About Your Coach
Hi. I’m Lisa.
I’ve spent the last two decades learning, practicing, and teaching hundreds of parents how to prevent family conflicts. I started doing this work because I decided that I wouldn’t have kids until I had tools to do things differently than my (well-intentioned and loving) parents did. I have two kids.
Parents usually feel judged
Parents usually
feel judged
by their kids, their partners, their in-laws, other parents, and (the harshest critics of all) themselves. I see what every family member does through a judgment-free lens, which results in robust, compassionate conflict transformation.
I majored in Chinese in college, produced a podcast at a food truck park, and perform monologues like Date Night at Pet Emergency and the Mommy Meltdown Show. I also love square dancing and tandem pedal kayaks.
You’ve probably noticed that I don’t have any letters after my name. That’s because the skills you need to prevent conflicts and repair ruptures don’t require a degree in mental health. They’re accessible to everyone. My clients and I are living proof of that.