Family
Conflict
Transformation
I created this offering for families who are suffering—sometimes from morning until night—with multiple conflicts with multiple family members—kids, parents, and sometimes even grandparents.
I see myself as a conflict repair mechanic
I am here to pinpoint and unravel the underlying patterns of entanglement, so we can begin to untie the knots of conflict and transform the family dynamic to one of connection and trust.
My job is to help you repair the ruptures that you’re afraid will scar your children for life and equip you with the tools you need to effectively navigate the conflicts that are sure to arise in the future.
Family Conflict Transformation is a series of coaching sessions where I work with your family in various constellations (individually, parents, parents and children, or children on their own and with each other) for between 1-3 hours at a time.
Dara Friedman
Ottawa, Canada
“I’ve noticed that I can do some things – say some things to my family – that I previously didn’t have the courage or felt the permission to say."
“This is really huge for me. I had been stuck not saying these things for almost my whole life!!!! Can you imagine? (If you’re here reading this, maybe you can….) Not to say that I’m exactly where I want to be right now, but it’s a start and I’m grateful for that.”
We will pick days and times that work with your impossibly busy schedule.
I am available for asynchronous support between sessions. Who can solve things in an hour? Conflict is unpredictable, so coaching needs to be flexible.
- You can reach me via text and email in between sessions.
- You can also reach me by phone for spot coaching as necessary.
Typically our work is done in 10 – 20 hours over a 3 – 6 month period. My goal is to help you resolve your conflicts, not keep you as a client in perpetuity.
That said, I always like to check in 3 months after our last session to see if the family agreements we’ve made are sticking, and troubleshoot where needed.
Susan Peirce Thompson, PhD
Rochester, New York
“Parenting feels joyful and
doable again!”
“Parenting feels joyful and doable again!”
“I’m busy, so I always hesitate to add new things. But I needed help with mothering, so I took the plunge. I would absolutely recommend working with Lisa! She’s a life saver when parenting gets tough. It means the world to know someone has your back and can help you navigate challenges. Parenting feels joyful and doable again! I love how practical her help is. How flexible and available she is. And how she’s been able to work with each of my kids–and me–during some of our roughest times. I feel confident knowing I have somewhere to turn for help when parenting teenagers feels overwhelming. We are still making it through–one day at a time–but I have a more collaborative approach with my kids now and that is working out well.”
Financial Request
I ask that you give me the most that you can without it compromising your own financial sustainability. What would meet my own needs for financial sustainability falls between $150 – $250 an hour. If the lowest amount is too much, let me know what could work and we’ll figure something out. Those who give me higher amounts make it easier for me to support those with less access to financial resources and also help me co-create a network dedicated to people making decisions with other people rather than for other people — particularly within families.
I ask that the amount you give feels like a manageable stretch to you. I don’t want it to be so little that you feel like our time together is a bargain or so much that you would limit the total number of times that you see me or the frequency with which you see me because it feels unsustainable to you. At this point, a minimum of $100 is what I need for my financial sustainability but if that’s beyond you, I am committed to figuring out some way for you to get the support you need, so let’s talk. Sometimes clients give me less per session if they’re seeing me twice or more in a week and increase the amount when their need for support shifts and they’re seeing me less frequently.
About Your Coach
Hi. I’m Lisa.
I’ve spent the last two decades learning, practicing, and teaching hundreds of parents how to prevent family conflicts. I started doing this work because I decided that I wouldn’t have kids until I had tools to do things differently than my (well-intentioned and loving) parents did. I have two kids.
Parents usually feel judged by their kids, their partners, their in-laws, other parents, and (the harshest critics of all) themselves. I see what every family member does through a judgment-free lens, which results in robust, compassionate conflict transformation.
I majored in Chinese in college, produced a podcast at a food truck park, and perform monologues like Date Night at Pet Emergency and the Mommy Meltdown Show. I also love square dancing and tandem pedal kayaks.
You’ve probably noticed that I don’t have any letters after my name. That’s because the skills you need to prevent conflicts and repair ruptures don’t require a degree in mental health. They’re accessible to everyone. My clients and I are living proof of that.
If this sounds like what you’re looking for, let’s have an initial 30-minute chat to see if it’s a good fit!