Beyond
Power Struggles
Workshop
Questions That Connect with Students
Michelle Remy
Sierra Vista PE Teacher
“As an educator, I am looking forward to using the tools Lisa shares with my so-called ‘trouble-makers,’ many of whom are dealing with trauma. As a mother, I appreciate the emphasis on repair.”
“Lisa keeps teachers and staff engaged with relevant case studies and interactive activities. We left with a greater understanding of the importance of empathy in connecting with students who don’t meet the expectations. We also got tools we can start using immediately to put new skills into practice. If you want to ask me anything about my experience with Lisa, please feel free to call or email me.”
Watch this video to get a flavor of what it’s like
Watch this video to get a
flavor of what it’s like
Beyond Power Struggles: Questions That Connect
When a student doesn’t do what a teacher expects of them, it can be hard on everyone involved, including the rest of the class. Drawing from real-life examples, this interactive workshop provides practical tools for asking curiosity-driven questions to uncover and resolve the underlying issues and bypass power struggles altogether.
Learning Objectives
- Harness Empathy: Experience the transformative power of empathy in fueling connection with both yourself and your students.
- Ask Curiosity-Driven Questions: Learn to ask questions that inspire students to share information about their needs and the underlying issues.
- Differentiate Needs: Explore whether a student’s actions stem from inability (“can’t”) or unwillingness (“won’t”) to meet expectations and adapt strategies accordingly.
- Integrate a Four-Step Methodology: Learn and practice a clear process for addressing conflicts effectively and efficiently.
- Create Collaborative Paths: Develop skills to co-create solutions that meet the needs of the teacher, the student, and the classroom as a whole.
- Apply Case Study Insights: Analyze and practice with real-life examples, seeing how the four-step process leads to more effective and time-efficient outcomes than typical power struggles do.
Jeff Shostack, Psy.D.
Certified School Psychologist
Author of De-Escalating Children's Anger: Using the RESPECT Approach to End the Power Struggle and Promote Self-Responsibility
“That was the one of the best professional development workshops I’ve attended in a long time. Lisa presents the concepts in a clear and engaging way, and I left feeling inspired about the connection that’s possible when teachers know how to bypass power struggles. ”
About Your Facilitator
Hi. I’m Lisa.
I’ve spent the last two decades learning, practicing, and teaching hundreds of parents how to prevent family conflicts. I started doing this work because I decided that I wouldn’t have kids until I had tools to do things differently than my (well-intentioned and loving) parents did. I have two kids who are now 15 and 18.
Unlike me, my kids actually enjoyed middle and high school.
And I like to believe that a big part of that was because of the parenting choices my husband and I made. I’m thrilled to share our experiences and what we learned from them with you.
Parents usually feel judged
Parents usually feel judged
by their kids, their partners, their in-laws, other parents, and (the harshest critics of all) themselves. I see what every family member does through a judgment-free lens, which results in robust, compassionate conflict transformation.
I majored in Chinese in college, produced a podcast at a food truck park, and perform monologues like Date Night at Pet Emergency and the Mommy Meltdown Show. I also love square dancing and tandem pedal kayaks.
You’ve probably noticed that I don’t have any letters after my name. That’s because the skills you need to prevent conflicts and repair ruptures don’t require a degree in mental health. They’re accessible to everyone. My clients and I are living proof of that.
A Few More Details
We encourage parents to bring kids as young as 10 — provided they genuinely want to come. Parents can tell them this is a chance to find out how they can get more of what they want, more of the time, in a way that works for everybody.